Monday, April 13, 2015

I'm Officially Moving My Blog To A New Home

No, I'm not moving my house, just my blog. Previously my blog and my web site were on two different stand alone sites. Because I needed to make my web site mobile friendly, I have decided to combine my blog and my site in one place making it easier for me to post articles and for my clients to be able to just have everything in one place. 

I will be leaving this site, Everything Spirit up for another few weeks until I am able to get all of the articles moved over to have them available for those that still want to go back and read them. Once they are moved to the new site, I will be taking this site down as I will not be posting further articles here. 

My new blog is currently available with new articles at Readings By Ms Yvonne Blog and is where I will not only be posting the past articles from this blog, but will also be posting many new articles.

If you are currently following this blog, I hope you will take a few minutes to check out my new blog and become a follower. I think you'll really enjoy some of the articles I have already posted and the new ones to come.

Thank you for your continued support of my blog and I hope you'll stay with me on my new blog.

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

An Open Letter To The Parents Of Bullies


Now that school is back in session for the New Year, there is something I would like to address on bullies. While the teachers, counselors and other parents are busy trying to teach your children not to be a bully, you might want to jump in here and so some of the work yourself.

The first thing should be getting out of denial that your child is a bully. How do you recognize if he or she is a bully, pay attention to their behavior? I’m willing to bet if they are a bully outside the home, they are a bully at home also.

Don’t use the excuse you are too busy. You chose to be a parent so now is the time to step up and be one.

When I say pay attention to their behavior, that means if they are posting on any social media sites you need to see what they post. If they are under 21, live in your house, use your internet, or use a phone you bought them, then they should be following your rules. It’s not an invasion of privacy, it’s your job as a parent. Don’t treat them like your best friend, treat them like your child.

While behavior toward others should be taught when they are young, it’s really never too late to start or reinforce good behavior. I often hear parents say their child is too young to understand, but the reality is they are never too young. Just as you teach them touching something may hurt them, that is the time to teach them about hurting others.

If your child comes home with money or things you have no idea where they came from, ask questions and find out. Just as you would not want your child to give away an expensive item you bought them for Christmas, it’s not a far cry to understand some other parent wouldn’t approve of their child giving away that item either. As a parent, find out where and how they acquired the money or item, who it was taken from and make them return it with an apology.

Now comes the hard part, look at your home life and see if there is something there causing this type of behavior. Children often learn from what they see around them. Are they getting the idea this type of behavior is okay because they are seeing it in a parent or sibling acting this way with no consequences for their actions? While you might get offended by this remark, maybe it’s time to take a good look at the situation.

Before you ask, no, I do not have a professional background in counseling. What I do have is many years of experience as a parent, grandparent with a large family full of children. Seriously, most of what I’ve written here is just common sense rules of parenting.

With this article, I’m joining the masses of people trying to stop bullying. I’ve seen and read too many articles on our youth feeling like their only way out of the situation is to end their own lives. How sad this can be prevented by intervention of the parents of the cause of their suffering.

So, not only am I asking more people to not just speak up but to take action, but also asking the parents of these bullies to take a look at their child and put a stop to their bad behavior. I’m not now, nor would I ever, call a child bad, but instead ask them to reflect on their bad behavior. As a mother of two boys, I often had to address their behavior but also had to make sure there were consequences to face if they acted out.

Please feel free to leave your comments, good or bad, and I’ll try to address them in a timely fashion. Thank you for allowing me to voice my concerns.


Sunday, April 27, 2014

Finding A Soul Mate

Have you found your soul mate yet? Are you still looking for your soul mate? Where the heck do you find your soul mate? What is the definition of a soul mate? Are these the type of questions you are always asking yourself?

I do psychic readings and if I had a dime for every time someone came to me asking about their soul mate, I could buy my own island. I have to wonder if most of these people even have an idea of what a soul mate is so I looked up the definition in Webster’s Dictionary.
It says: 1. A person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament. 2. A person who strongly resembles another person in attitudes and beliefs.

My take is someone that is pretty much just like me. Someone with the same temperament, attitudes and beliefs. Does that mean someone who acts, thinks and behaves just like me? Is there really only one person out there in the whole world that would fit this description and would I really want to spend every day of my life with essentially a clone of me. Sounds rather boring and not very interesting if we always agreed on everything. Where would the excitement come in? Does this mean we would always feel and think the same about everything? I, personally, wouldn’t want my spouse, lover or whatever position they hold, to have the same emotions and thoughts I have, besides I have some crazy thoughts depending on where I am that day.
I so often hear clients say they need a soul mate to complete them. Seriously, if you aren’t happy with yourself, you can’t make someone else happy. We create our own happiness, we shouldn’t look to others to make us happy. That would be a hard job, I would never saddle someone else with that task. Complete you, really, isn’t that a catch phrase from a movie and sort of unpractical in real life. What can you add to a relationship, rather friendship, family or romantic if you are not good in your own skin?

Sadly I see so many people searching so hard for that one person, that perfect mate, the one that will be their soul mate, they tend to overlook the obvious. They don’t see the person that is always there for them, in good times and bad. The one you can always count on to give you a reality check when they think you are about to make a bad choice, even if it causes a disagreement. Someone with flaws and baggage of their own, but still makes time to listen. You feel comfortable enough with them to allow them to see you in an old pair of sweats, no make-up on a bad hair day. You can share secrets, laugh at your mistakes (which they usually point out to you) and have heated debates on everything from politics to religion. Sometimes you are polar opposites on topics, but allow each other to make their point and don’t judge even when you think they are wrong.

Most people I have come across think a soul mate is the perfect person. Truly, we are all flawed humans, there is no perfect person anywhere on this earth. They seem to think a soul mate will make their life perfect. The reality is, if your life is totally screwed up, you are the one that needs to fix it, not put that burden on another person. Will you live happily ever after once you find your soul mate? You do know that only happens in fairy tales, not in the real world.

Wouldn’t you be better off with that person that will go through life’s ups and downs, joys and sorrow but still be there for you? A good fit for me is the person that has their own flaws and can overlook mine. I’m not perfect, so having do deal everyday with someone that is would be just too taxing. It would take away from me, the person I am, to have to try to be on my best behavior all the time. To always think, feel and believe the same as someone else would take away my spirit, the inner workings of me, the thing that makes me the unique person I know. I would rather have someone that has their own belief, their own thoughts and their own unique personality.

Well, that’s my take on the subject of soul mates. Does it agree with yours, maybe not, but that’s okay. I’m always open to hearing others view points on the subject, so comment or contact me, I’d love to hear your ideas.

With that said, I’m off to work giving readings and dollars to donuts I will get at least three or four clients today asking when they will meet their soul mate.

Friday, February 8, 2013

Getting Rid of Negative Energy






I know you’ve heard me say this about a million times, if you put out positive energy it will attract positive energy, while putting out negative energy will attract negative energy.Do you want to see if it really works, read on and take my challenge?
A few months ago, I met a wonderful lady (who has given me permission to use our discussion) on the internet that asked me to help her with her own spiritual journey. We chat several times a week and it seems the main subject we most discuss is the need for her to change her mindset. We are currently in the process of getting her to stop saying I can’t and start believing she can do what she needs to make a better life for herself. One of the first things I noticed in our chats was her continual negative responses, so something we work at on a regular basis.
First of all, no you cannot always be positive and there will be times a negative thought crosses your mind. We are human and it’s human nature for this to happen, however, you can try to turn those negatives into something positive. Strictly speaking for myself, when I get a negative thought (yes, I’m human too and get them), I try to stop and see why I feel this way. Sometimes I have to step back from the situation, take a deep breath and see if I can change my own attitude. I wish I could say it works every time, but sometimes I just have to realize there are things happening in my life I can’t fix and try to get past it.
Bad things do happen to good people and sometimes it just isn’t your fault. For instance if you are driving down the road, another driver is texting and hits your car. No, you did not put out negative energy and cause this to happen. However, if you’re driving, angry because the traffic isn’t going fast enough, people are getting in your way, and the anger is causing you to be inattentive to the point you don’t see the traffic in front of you stopping and you hit someone else, that is a good example of negative energy bringing negative results.
I decided the best way to help my friend was to give her a challenge. For one 24 hour period she will try her best to put out only positive energy. If she starts to feel the negative creep in, she will stop, push it out of her mind and find something positive to replace it. On the second day, she will put out negative energy, allowing herself to spew her anger and frustrations with whatever she feels. I ask that she keep a notebook handy and write down how she feels, physically, emotionally and spiritually throughout the two days. At the end of the challenge we will evaluate what she has written and see how the changes affect her.
I realize there are many skeptics, naysayers, and just plain I don’t believers out there. It’s okay, I was at that place myself at one time. But, if you’ve read this far, I offer this same challenge to you. Are you up for it? I’d love to hear your ideas, comments or even rebuttal.
Now, who will take the challenge?
P.S. A big thanks to my dear friend in allowing me to use our discussion as a jumping off point for this blog article.

This is a repeat of an article I wrote some time back but felt something that needed to be addressed.

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Valentine Special Reading

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Saturday, September 10, 2011

My Personal Memory of September 11, 2001

On September 11, 2011, I awoke to a phone call from my sister. She was crying and told me to turn on the television. I sat and watched in tears as our country was attacked. I called my children, my family and friends while I worried about my husband who was driving a gasoline tanker on the freeways and streets of Southern California. I felt hopeless, I couldn't think, all I could do was watch in terror as the planes hit the towers, the pentagon and the plane that crashed in Pennsylvania not knowing how close it was to my family living there. I sat down at my computer and these are my thoughts that just seemed to tumble from my fingertips onto my computer screen.






Attack On America                    Feelings of Yvonne McAdams Peramaki    September 11, 2001

 I didn’t see the explosion,
 I couldn’t hear the loud boom,
 I was clear across the country,
 In a place I thought I would always be safe,
 Here in my own home,
 Sitting in my living room.

How could this have happened?
 Brought our world to a halt,
 As people run for cover
 Refuge for their lives being sought.
 They have closed down our whole country,
 Who could have been so mean?
 And on every television station,
 Devastation is all that is seen.
 Words can not express enough
The great sorrow that we feel
 For those who lost their lives
 In those hijacked airplanes
 And those buildings made of steel.

 How do I explain this?
Should I let them know my fears?
 What do we tell our children?
 As we all sit and watch in tears.
 I guess we can only tell them
We will try to keep them safe
And try to teach them how to love,
 And to say a prayer to God
 For those who lost their lives
 And are now with him above.

 What were they thinking?
 As they hijacked those planes high in the air?
 As long as they got their point across,
 I guess they just really didn’t care.
Did they care about the grief?
 Or the lives that would be lost?
 Was their satisfaction with what they’d done,
 Worth the human lives it cost.

Now 10 years later, as America and the World remembers and mourns, please take a few minutes from your busy life to say a prayer for the heroes of Flight 93, those that lost their lives in New York and at the Pentagon in the planes and on the ground. Say a prayer for all of the courageous men and woman who were first responders and for the brave men and women in our armed forces, police departments, fire departments and homeland security that are still on the job trying to keep our country safe.

GOD BLESS AMERICA

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Positive Energy Vs. Negative Energy

I know you’ve heard me say this about a million times, if you put out positive energy it will attract positive energy, while putting out negative energy will attract negative energy.Do you want to see if it really works, read on and take my challenge?
A few months ago, I met a wonderful lady (who has given me permission to use our discussion) on the internet that asked me to help her with her own spiritual journey. We chat several times a week and it seems the main subject we most discuss is the need for her to change her mindset. We are currently in the process of getting her to stop saying I can’t and start believing she can do what she needs to make a better life for herself. One of the first things I noticed in our chats was her continual negative responses, so something we work at on a regular basis.
First of all, no you cannot always be positive and there will be times a negative thought crosses your mind. We are human and it’s human nature for this to happen, however, you can try to turn those negatives into something positive. Strictly speaking for myself, when I get a negative thought (yes, I’m human too and get them), I try to stop and see why I feel this way. Sometimes I have to step back from the situation, take a deep breath and see if I can change my own attitude. I wish I could say it works every time, but sometimes I just have to realize there are things happening in my life I can’t fix and try to get past it.
Bad things do happen to good people and sometimes it just isn’t your fault. For instance if you are driving down the road, another driver is texting and hits your car. No, you did not put out negative energy and cause this to happen. However, if you’re driving, angry because the traffic isn’t going fast enough, people are getting in your way, and the anger is causing you to be inattentive to the point you don’t see the traffic in front of you stopping and you hit someone else, that is a good example of negative energy bringing negative results.
I decided the best way to help my friend was to give her a challenge. For one 24 hour period she will try her best to put out only positive energy. If she starts to feel the negative creep in, she will stop, push it out of her mind and find something positive to replace it. On the second day, she will put out negative energy, allowing herself to spew her anger and frustrations with whatever she feels. I ask that she keep a notebook handy and write down how she feels, physically, emotionally and spiritually throughout the two days. At the end of the challenge we will evaluate what she has written and see how the changes affect her.
I realize there are many skeptics, naysayers, and just plain I don’t believers out there. It’s okay, I was at that place myself at one time. But, if you’ve read this far, I offer this same challenge to you. Are you up for it? I’d love to hear your ideas, comments or even rebuttal.
Now, who will take the challenge?
P.S. A big thanks to my dear friend in allowing me to use our discussion as a jumping off point for this blog article.