Do you often ask why bad things always happen to you? Is someone blocking your path to success? Why do your relationships always seem to end badly? Look in the mirror and you will probably see the person stopping you from having the happy life you desire.
While I know this may sound mean, most times the answer is actually you. By this, I don’t mean you willingly set out to sabotage your life. Often we do this without actually realizing we’re the cause or the reason it continues to happen.
One of the main causes of this happening is negative attitude or thoughts. You may be saying I’m not negative but this can happen through a thought. Have you ever wanted to do something but tell yourself you don’t think you can? This one thought can trigger a lot of negative energy that balloons into many other areas of your life. When you think you can’t do something, most often you’ll convince yourself it just won’t happen. If that one thing you wanted doesn’t materialize, it can then cause a snowball affect spilling over into other decisions.
I’ll try to give you an example of how this can happen. You may want to change jobs and see an ad for a job that would be perfect for you. This job would be a boost for your career, while allowing you to earn more money. You mull it over and perhaps out of fear of being rejected, you decide not to apply. Because of this decision you stay in a job where you’re not really happy and now you have to work more hours just to be able to pay the rent. If you had gotten the new job, you could have made enough money to not only pay your rent, but move into a better home. So you can see how one negative thought can project itself into other areas of your life and make it seem as though something is blocking you from getting the things you want, yet it was you.
Sometimes without understanding why, you may feel as though you’re in a rut and you just can’t seem to get out. Just when things are going good, something happens to push you back. Without realizing it, you may be putting yourself there by making the same bad choices you’ve done in the past. This by no means makes you a bad person, just someone who needs to change their way of making decisions.
With all of this said, sometimes bad things just do happen to good people and it can be something out of your control. Your company downsizing causes you to lose your job can often start a spiral on all areas of your life. This is out of your personal control and not your fault.
If these are questions you often ask yourself, don’t get discouraged. The first step in fixing the situation is to identify the cause. Once you know why it’s happening, you can then work to make the changes you need to get the life you deserve.
I’ve helped many clients to recognize the problem and I’d be happy to help you. I start by doing a reading to see the root of the problem and what changes need to be made to turn things around. If you’d like my help, please contact me through my website